Single moms need help. I haven’t met one single mom that didn’t need help in one way or another. Some single moms even have to move back in with their parents for awhile. In a society that requires two incomes to survive, there just isn’t any way for moms to make it without reaching out for help.

I was very fortunate to have an elder of the church to go to when I first became a single mom. I didn’t need physical help with my children, but I needed a lot of work done around my house over the years. Working at home allowed me to care for my children, but I still didn’t have enough money to call a plumber every time the pipes got clogged or starting leaking.

Many of the men in my church have stepped up over the years to help us. They were faithful to use their talents to install half-doors for my disabled child, remove a bat that had gotten into the house, fix a broken lawnmower, install a handicap ramp for my daughter and grandmother, insulate the house, and much more.

The thing is that the men never would have started helping the girls and I if I had been to prideful to mention that we needed the help. It can be hard to humble yourself and ask for help. I know that I would love to pay each and every one of those men back for the time they spent helping us, but I can’t afford to.

What I teach my daughters is to keep your eye open for someone in need. If you are capable of meeting that need, then do it. There were plenty of times that we were able to help others by babysitting, providing a meal, or sending a care package. It may not seem like much, but it was what we could do at the time. If we end up with more money later on in life, we will use it to help someone. Until then, I’ll have to humble myself and ask for help.